Selasa, 26 Juni 2012

Value of Life

Alkisah, ada seorang pemuda yang hidup sebatang kara. Pendidikan rendah, hidup dari bekerja sebagai buruh tani milik tuan tanah yang kaya raya. Walapun hidupnya sederhana tetapi sesungguhnya dia bisa melewati kesehariannya dengan baik.

Pada suatu ketika, si pemuda merasa jenuh dengan kehidupannya. Dia tidak mengerti, untuk apa sebenarnya hidup di dunia ini. Setiap hari bekerja di ladang orang demi sesuap nasi. Hanya sekadar melewati hari untuk menunggu kapan akan mati. Pemuda itu merasa hampa, putus asa, dan tidak memiliki arti.
“Daripada tidak tahu hidup untuk apa dan hanya menunggu mati, lebih baik aku mengakhiri saja kehidupan ini,” katanya dalam hati. Disiapkannya seutas tali dan dia berniat menggantung diri di sebatang pohon.
Pohon yang dituju, saat melihat gelagat seperti itu, tiba-tiba menyela lembut. “Anak muda yang tampan dan baik hati, tolong jangan menggantung diri di dahanku yang telah berumur ini. Sayang, bila dia patah. Padahal setiap pagi ada banyak burung yang hinggap di situ, bernyanyi riang untuk menghibur siapapun yang berada di sekitar sini.”
Dengan bersungut-sungut, si pemuda pergi melanjutkan memilih pohon yang lain, tidak jauh dari situ. Saat bersiap-siap, kembali terdengar suara lirih si pohon, “Hai anak muda. Kamu lihat di atas sini, ada sarang tawon yang sedang dikerjakan oleh begitu banyak lebah dengan tekun dan rajin. Jika kamu mau bunuh diri, silakan pindah ke tempat lain. Kasihanilah lebah dan manusia yang telah bekerja keras tetapi tidak dapat menikmati hasilnya.”
Sekali lagi, tanpa menjawab sepatah kata pun, si pemuda berjalan mencari pohon yang lain. Kata yang didengarpun tidak jauh berbeda, “Anak muda, karena rindangnya daunku, banyak dimanfaatkan oleh manusia dan hewan untuk sekadar beristirahat atau berteduh di bawah dedaunanku. Tolong jangan mati di sini.”
Setelah pohon yang ketiga kalinya, si pemuda termenung dan berpikir, “Bahkan sebatang pohonpun begitu menghargai kehidupan ini. Mereka menyayangi dirinya sendiri agar tidak patah, tidak terusik, dan tetap rindang untuk bisa melindungi alam dan bermanfaat bagi makhluk lain”.
Segera timbul kesadaran baru. “Aku manusia; masih muda, kuat, dan sehat. Tidak pantas aku melenyapkan kehidupanku sendiri. Mulai sekarang, aku harus punya cita-cita dan akan bekerja dengan baik untuk bisa pula bermanfaat bagi makhluk lain”.
Si pemuda pun pulang ke rumahnya dengan penuh semangat dan perasaan lega.

Kalau kita mengisi kehidupan ini dengan menggerutu, mengeluh, dan pesimis, tentu kita menjalani hidup ini (dengan) terasa terbeban dan saat tidak mampu lagi menahan akan memungkinkan kita mengambil jalan pintas yaitu bunuh diri.
Sebaliknya, kalau kita mampu menyadari sebenarnya kehidupan ini begitu indah dan menggairahkan, tentu kita akan menghargai kehidupan ini. Kita akan mengisi kehidupan kita, setiap hari penuh dengan optimisme, penuh harapan dan cita-cita yang diperjuangkan, serta mampu bergaul dengan manusia-manusia lainnya.

Minggu, 24 Juni 2012

My Dream


What is your dream? What would you love to do with your life if you had the time and resources? Travel? Volunteer work? A craft or hobby?
Knowing your dream and living it--this is the whole purpose behind simplifying your life. By knowing your dream, you have a powerful motivator to make changes in your life. By starting to have pieces of your dream, your life takes on a joy that makes the sacrifices of simplicity worth it.
This is where the simplicity work gets exciting--without your dream, my suggestions for simplicity might be just empty directives. But in all the work of this book, you are arranging your life and clearing out its clutter so that your dream can have room to live. This section gives you ideas for stating, supporting, and unleashing your dream.


State your dream

What I mean by dream is your heart's desire--what you truly want to do. Your dream may be to work in a certain profession or live in a particular place. Or your dream might involve simple things: to have more time to work in your garden, spend more time with family or friends, or have time for walks or to read books.
The first step in living your dream is to discover and express it.


Support your dream

Once you have your dream stated and some goals made based on it, you can begin the exciting work to make it real.


Unleash your dream

Once you state your dream, get into a positive feedback loop as soon as possible and be ready to take advantage of unexpected opportunities.

Sabtu, 16 Juni 2012

Positive Thinker


Somehow it has become ingrained in us that negative thoughts are more realistic than positive thoughts.  This is pure madness, especially since over 90% of what we worry about never happens!
We have to get our heads around the fact that being positive is actually far more realistic than being negative.  This is such a difficult concept for most of us to grasp, and we have to purposefully work hard to re-train the brain to think more positively. 
Think of it this way: if your body became out of shape you would probably view physical exercise as an effective way to improve its condition—and we must begin looking at the health of our mind in the same way.  


Here are 7 valuable exercises that you can start implementing right now to re-train your thinking:

Use Verbal Affirmations EVERY Day
An affirmation is a positive statement that something is already happening, and is a very powerful tool you can use to shift your internal dialogue from negative to positive.  Come up with a few statements like “I am creating a beautiful day” or “money and success flow to me” and spend 10 minutes every morning (and every night for extra credit) saying them aloud. 
Come up with statements that make the most sense for you, and be sure to state them in the present tense, and in a positive form.  This is self-talk in its highest sense, and can bevery effective.
Use Positive Language
When it comes to the language we use, world-renowned author and lecturer Dr. Susan Jeffers says: “It doesn’t matter if we believe the words or not, the mere uttering of them makes the subconscious mind believe them to be true.  It is as though the subconscious mind doesn’t know what is true or false, it doesn’t judge, it only reacts to the language that is being fed”. 
Many researchers have shown this sentiment to be quite valid, and we must intentionally start using more positive language to shape the worldview of our subconscious mind.


Create a Vision Board
A vision board is the physical manifestation of the life you want to be leading.  Find images of the house you desire, the places you want to travel, and the job you crave to work and tack them to a corkboard!  Be creative and place words and images that are accurate expressions of your inner-most desires. 
Constantly add to your vision board put it somewhere you can see it several times a day– even spend a few moments visualizing what it would be like to be living in this life you created.  Isn’t this a better way to spend time than in your usual stress mode?
Surround Yourself with Positive Images 
They could be famous quotes, inspiring pictures, or even your affirmations that you write out on note cards.  The point is to always have physical reminders of things you deem positive close by.  Print these items out and place them by your desk, near your bed, and in the car!  When you get stressed out, give a glance to them and you will begin to get perspective on things and your mind will re-focus!
Say “Thank You” 50 Times a Day
Every night before you go to bed, spend 5 minutes saying thank you out loud for the experiences you had that day: the people you interacted with, the work you accomplished, the food you ate, etc…As you do this, really try and feel the gratitude emanate from within. 
You can also say thank you 50 times in the morning and get yourself in an extremely grateful mindset for the coming day.  These are wonderful practices for becoming more positive!
Listen to Inspirational Talks and Music in the Car
The car is the perfect place to flex your muscle of positive thought!  Because many of us spend a lot of time driving, make an effort to listen to music that inspires you and makes you feel good.  Purchase motivational personal development CD’s and play them while driving. 
I mentioned Dr. Susan Jeffers above, and I recently listened to her CD “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” in my car three times in a row!  Have your car become an oasis of learning and start using the time constructively.
Use Positive Thinking While Exercising
If you consistently exercise, this is an excellent time to practice your positive thinking.  Say to yourself over and over again: “I am strong and durable” or “I am fast and powerful” and notice the immediate affect these utterances have on your workout.  It is absolutely incredible how just saying these words increases your stamina and strength.



Kris Allen - Live Like We're Dying

How to be a Good Leader

1.  Solve problems. The first step towards becoming a leader is to look around and find ways to make the world a better place. Observe your surroundings and listen to people. How can you help? Discover what your talents are, develop them, and focus on applying them towards making a difference. Think of problems in the broader sense - they're not always easy to define. Look for needs, niches, conflicts, gaps that need to be filled, and inefficiencies. The solutions won't always be creative or cutting edge; sometimes they're the simplest things.

2. Think of the big picture. As you're solving problems, you might notice patterns, and wonder if many of those problems are symptoms of a deeper, bigger problem. Thoreau once said, "For every thousand hacking at the leaves of evil, one is hacking at the root." Take a step back and try to find the root. The thing about the deeper problem is that it's not something anybody can solve alone; it'll require a group effort, which is where your role as a leader comes into play.

3. Be proactive. If you've got these ideas in your mind about what the deeper issues are, you can probably predict the problems that'll crop up as a result. Instead of waiting for those problems to appear, take steps to prevent them. If you can't prevent them, then you can at least prepare. That's the core difference between a leader and a manager. A good manager responds well to a variety of situations; a good leader takes effective action to prevent and create situations before they actually happen.

4. Make decisions, and take responsibility for the consequences. In order to exert influence and tackle bigger problems, you're going to need decision-making power, and those decisions will affect the people who grant you that power. This is as much a responsibility as it is an honor. Not only do you need to be able to make sound decisions, but you also need to be willing to be held accountable to them. If things go wrong, people will assume it's your fault (whether it is or not). Think of yourself as the captain of a ship; the fate of the ship is essentially in your hands, and it's up to you to steer everyone in the right direction. So exercise wisdom when calling the shots; hope for the best and prepare for the worst. If you're not prepared to take responsibility for your decisions - if you struggle with hesitation and self-doubt - it might be a good idea to step down. An insecure leader often becomes a tyrant.

5. Share your vision. As a leader, you can see the bigger issues at hand, but you can also see how things could be so much better if we could just remove those obstacles. To get people to help you in changing things, you need to share that positive vision with them. Inspire them. Motivate them. Guide them. Show them how their actions are bringing everyone closer to that dream. "Most important, leaders can conceive and articulate goals that lift people out of their petty preoccupations and unite them in pursuit of objectives worthy of their best efforts."[1]

6. Remember that it's not all about you. The greatest leaders saw their role as a means to an end, and themselves as an instrument of a deeper purpose; any glory, prestige, or wealth was a side effect rather than a motivation. If you want to realize a vision, the most effective way to do it is not with an army of drones; that army will only last as long as you do. For the most long-lasting results, share your vision and let people adopt it as their own, and let it spread like wildfire. Think of yourself as the beginning of a chain reaction--once it's begun, you can step away and it'll continue to happen without any effort on your part. "A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves."[2]

One Direction - One Thing